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Betsy Hansen

Meet Delores!

Talk about being over the moon excited on your birthday! Shad sent me to the moon and back on this one.

I have wanted a Mini Cooper since I turned 16 and saw one on my French Class trip to Paris with Mrs Foster. My Dad would give me a matchbox or remote controlled one or make me buy a raffle ticket to win one but never was the “real thing” that close. I did tell Shad that I WOULD at some point in my life have a Mini but I was NOT waiting till I was 50 and completely in a mid-life crisis.

I spent my birthday working in NYC. On the way home, since I missed the kids going to bed and the NYC Ballet ticket that Kasey and John bought me I decided to go to my soccer playoffs. That’s when things started looking up. I was with a group of people I like and we won our playoffs and the division. That’s fun… even at 44 that’s still fun. Phil, one of the guys on my team proceeded to get about 40 people to sing Happy Birthday to me in the cafe after the game. That’s fun… yup even at 44 I still thought that was kind of fun and very thoughtful. It’s the simple things, you know? As I drove home, excited to see Shad because it kind of stunk being away from him the day after Mother’s Day through my Birthday.

Driving home I called my Mom, since we talk every night, regardless of the hour. As I drove in the driveway I started to say my goodbyes – I opened the garage door and was slightly annoyed to see some stuff in the way of my pulling the van in. Wait, that stuff was a little car… that was a Mini Cooper and I started shrieking in my Mom’s ear. She repeatedly said “WHAAAT?” “HUNH?”… “WHATTTT?” And I said “Shad got me a Mini Cooper I HAVE TO GO!” Out from the side of the garage Shad appeared with one of the biggest smiles I had ever seen! He held up a key for me and said “Happy Birthday! Do you want to take it for a drive?” In awe, I sad YES and took the keys, as I backed this little thing out of the garage I started reeling around where I would go. Shad couldn’t go with me since the kids were asleep… hmmmm… Molly’s??? I just left her and Shad said she knew about my little car. My Moms! I would go to my Mom’s and take her for a ride. Perfect.

I said “I am going to go to my Mom’s and take her for a ride”. In hindsight, that was pretty mean as I didn’t share the excitement more than 30 seconds with Shad who had to put together a LOT of pieces to surprise me and make it legal for me to drive. But… I did head to my Mom’s, picked her up and then we went to see my Dad. I drove in the cemetery … radio blaring …  pulled right up next to him and said “LOOK DAD!!!!” I think she thought I was nuts but it was just so perfect – or as perfect as things can be without him here. He would have loved this and how excited I was. Heck, probably would have helped Shad pull it off. He was a huge fan of stuff like this – and surprises!

It was just perfect. Everything about the night ended perfect. I came home from my ride and climbed into bed with a smile on my face and thanked Shad. How blessed am I? I am still smiling.

Learning to Snap

Mother of the Year

Ummmm… Yah…

It’s probably not even appropriate to post but I didn’t even see it when I took the shot. She was so busy doing things with her hands, snapping and dancing around that this was a split second of the series. As I edited, I have to say it made me laugh out loud. The innocence is still there – in a few years, it won’t be cute or funny at all. Now, however, I do think it’s pretty funny.

First Communion

Getting Ready

Getting Ready

Kate looked absolutely beautiful for her First Communion. She wore a dress that Grandma Kasey had bought her for her birthday last year from a bridal store, she had great shoes handed down from Katerina and her veil was handmade by Nannies friend SusieDavis (yes, Nannie says it as one word). It was all perfect and she loved being dressed up so fancy.

She sat patiently in Church, she answered the questions of Father Don, and sang her song “Yes, My Lord…”. I looked over at her on the end of the pew and was just so proud of her. Talk about being in love with your kid – I think she’s awesome. :-)

Anyway, Kate came back from Communion and said “I don’t like the bread”. I remember thinking EXACTLY the same thing! I couldn’t understand why it didn’t taste any better. I smiled and shared with her that I didn’t like it at first either.

Looking Beautiful

Looking Beautiful

Silly with Nannie
Silly with Nannie

Uncle JM

Betsy Hansen

Coolest Uncle JM


Studying to be an actor in Manhattan – that’s pretty cool.
The kids love having Uncle JM on the east coast and have grown quite close to him. He is awesome with all three and a cool dude to hang around. He’s Kate’s Godfather and she loves that. He’s a good man… that Uncle John Michael. Yes, he is.

New Smile

Betsy Hansen

“I PULLED IT!”

I have really noticed how much the kids faces grow as they grow. The changes are so subtle day to day but are so prominent when you look at their teeth. All three kiddos got teeth late – it was great for the airlines since they have bicoastal grandparents we flew a lot. It was much easier to pull off under two when they only had four teeth at a year. :-) Course that wouldn’t work today, but it did then! As I have watched Kate growing – the teeth are what make her growth the most obvious to me. They now look like tiny little chicklets on her ever-growing gums. The spaces are becoming further and further apart as the new teeth work their way down. It’s been a waiting game to see when she would lose her fourth tooth, afterall, she is eight. :-)

Kate came in my room first thing in the morning – she was excited about the upcoming weekend. (Birthday Party and First Communion) As I looked at her I had to smile because her top front tooth wanted to come out so badly it was practically sideways. It was hanging on by who knows what. We chatted for a minute about the upcoming day and then I said “I can NOT believe that little tooth is still hanging on.” She smiled, and I looked at what I knew was nearing the end of her little girl smile and she said “yup.”

Ten minutes later she came up stairs with a bloody towel and a very proud smile. She had pulled her tooth and was giggling telling me it hurt and felt weird. It brought back those feelings of running your teeth through that gaping hole, the smooth gum and the ridges of the big tooth on it’s way in.

 

Mother of the Year

My New Smile!

Auntie Kate

20130424-010304.jpg Auntie Kate has a special way about her. She has a gift of empathy, sympathy, imagination and storytelling. Here she is with three of the kiddos at the cemetery the other day. Now granted it looks barren without any stones near my Dad but as he would have said its “his real estate with a view”. He was quite proud of the way he positioned this bill of sale the day he drew up the papers. That empathetic view and creative way to talk about an uncomfortable thing… Much like Kate has and you can see it in this photo.

By the end of their travels through the cemetery they had said prayers and visited children born over a hundred years ago, older folks, tragic high school deaths and more.

I so wish with Kate’s gift we could write a book… Who knows who the audience would be but… I know if you eve read it you would just want more.

Even my kids wanted more after spending that time with her and so many others she “got to know”.

Being a Taurus

is just one more thing my Dad and I had in common. Or would we be Tauri? No idea what the plural form is and feeling too lazy to look it up…but either way we were both bulls.

Yesterday was my Dad’s birthday, he would have been 72. When I was growing up 72 sounded so old, and now it’s not even retirement age for folks. I sometimes think people are just getting younger or feeling younger because families are growing much later in life. Either way, 72 is too young to die.

20130423-161911.jpgA dear friend gave me this bracelet and gave my sister one too. Her mother taught her growing up that when someone passes away you celebrate their birthday not their death day. I think that’s a pretty cool way to look at it and have worn the bracelet every day this month.

I have recently decided there aren’t words that can describe the loss. Thankfully there are tons of words to describe the life. I am the blessed one but I still miss my Dad.

Yesterday there was a Mass for my Dad at church. The kids,  my mom, my sister and daughter, and I went to Mass and then enjoyed breakfast together. Following breakfast, ndependently, we each drove to the cemetery and found one another had done the same. Shea was with me and she decided to put her stuffed monkey on my Dad’s site – it doesn’t have a stone yet. The others left gumdrops. My mom didn’t get out of the car but I know she liked it (and thought it was tacky at the same time). We all know it came from a good place and a bunch of very big hearts.

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